In all the ages past the rules of engagement were simple. Man impress woman, kill beast with big rock. Woman swoons, man grunts, tribal dance ensues, make boom boom, the end. Slowly evolving to the age of courtships, arranged marriages.. etc. With the advent of the 20th Century and the great wars us women became enlightened. Suddenly, we realize we can have a life outside of the role of birthing babies and vacuuming. A spark goes off in our mind. Not only do we reevaluate our equality within society but within our relationships. For example, why do we have to be the ones to follow our men around the world to tend to their business, why not the opposite? Power struggles ignite across the world as the social norm changes. And in the wake of this unnerving deviant behavior us ladies, who most definitely enjoy the power and freedom, must find a middle ground in order to maintain a relationship, if we so choose to have one.
So now here I find myself in turbulent times in the complex battle fields of the sexes. (I choose to unlatch my tongue from my teeth hence further for literary clarity.) I would like to know why men assume it is unnatural for a woman to think about marriage when they are in a relationship with them. Come on now boys, this isn't a trick question. It also should not be mistaken that this fact means every girlfriend wants to actually marry you (any time soon, or ever). Every girl since they are consciously aware of society knows the story: girl meets guy, fall madly in love, get married, live happily ever after in the suburbs with a dog and 2.5 kids. This is what we are programmed to want, this is what we always knew we wanted... right? No, this isn't always the case. Us 21st Century gals don't know what the fuck we want. We have an identity crisis every 6 months. We will legitimately want to be a super soccer mom, then want to have a kick ass career and no kids in the same year. We are not all clingy bitches vying for your sperm to lock you down into being "steady".
I digress. Men and women need different things. Men need food and space. Women need hugs and conversation. We all need boom boom. The trick is balancing the needs. Most fights happen over miscommunication regarding basic needs for both genders. I suggest heavy study into the mysterious world of the opposite sex to help you better understand your bf/gf and improve your relationship skills. Sure I simplified this but you get the gist. My beef is with the fights... girls we all know we hate being in fights all we want are our men to make some grand gesture of apology and sweep us off our feet, kiss us and make everything better. Not reality. Because while we are playing this romantic scene over and over again in our head while sitting around for him to come to us all he is thinking is.. "Ugh I do not want to think about _____ so I wont." And he honest to God will not think about you for 3-4 days. This is mans way of getting over things. Mean while us woman are sitting at home depressed us fuck that our boyfriends can really be such assholes and not care. Its a frustrating cycle, with no cure insight. That wasn't suppose to be a downer just an alert to any one who didn't already know that. Like me before I learned the hard way oh so many times.
I don't pretend to speak for other women, but I know there are others out their like me and well we just don't feel up to the charade anymore. No games, no hidden agenda. Take my word for what it is, the truth. I just want to have fun, laugh, make money, drop money like its no ones business, and love with a passion that isn't tainted with underlying suspicions of cohersion into long term relationships. AKA really amazing partnerships with minimal strings attached. I'm 19 not 31. Let the good times roll!
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